Relationships and emotional balance
It is rarely about who was right. About 20 minutes of guided audio a day, and nothing to relive.
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In short
Sound familiar
You are not broken and you are not too much. The way you respond is a pattern your nervous system learned, and learned patterns can be unlearned.
Left alone, the pattern does not soften on its own. It quietly wears on your relationships, your confidence and the way you feel about yourself. Most people have already spent years trying to think or talk their way out of it.
Why nothing has held
None of it is useless. It is just all aimed at the wrong layer.
You can name your attachment style with total accuracy and still react exactly the same way at seven on a Tuesday evening.
The promise gets made by the calm version of you. The reaction belongs to a different one entirely.
It buys a few seconds, which is genuinely worth having. The flood is usually already through by the time you get there.
Repair matters and it is worth doing. It does not stop the next one arriving down exactly the same track.
Much better than the alternative. The thing that fired is still sitting there waiting when you come back.
Sometimes they should. It still leaves the one part of this you can actually move completely untouched.
You were never too much, and trying harder to stay calm was never going to do it. The pattern runs below conscious thought, which is exactly where these sessions work.
Ten minutes, yours
Not a clip and not a preview. The whole session, and no sign up. Then decide whether the rest is worth it.
Calm Reset 10 min · Rob Edmonds
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Best with headphones, somewhere you will not be interrupted and do not have to be composed for anybody.
Whatever you noticed just then was your own doing. The session is only the way in.
That is the whole thing. No sessions where you explain yourself.
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Real people, real results
After years in the Justice Department and a long run of traumatic incidents, Damian started to see the quiet toll it was taking on him and on his family. If you have been holding it together for everyone else and nothing has shifted it, his is the one to watch.
Damian · client“The constant anxiety, the overwhelm, the pressure to control everything, it is all softened. I feel calmer, more grounded, and finally free to breathe again.”
Crystal · clientReal people, real stories
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“As a nurse and mom, I needed better sleep. Mindshift Mentors’ recordings help me relax and sleep deeply.”
Adriana Rivera (Addy)
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“After years of struggling, I’m now getting full nights of sleep. Only 10 days into the audio. Thank you!”
Kristyna Hayward
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“I love the Mindshift Mentor recordings. I have long suffered a busy mind especially at night when the worry demons invade. If I can quiet my mind I quickly fall back asleep. I have tried so many things, psychologists, warm milk before bed, sliced turkey haha, yoga, warm shower/bath, journaling - you name it. However what has really helped is listening to these soothing guided meditations - I don’t know if I have actually made it to the end of one! I simply play them on my ipad before the mind starts and I’m out of it. Such a great find and the small investment has a big payday when i jump out of bed and aren’t tired during the day!”
Jim McIntyre
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“I had developed a really bad habit of clenching and grinding my teeth at night, especially during stressful periods. It was affecting my sleep and starting to impact my mood and energy levels. My brother Callan told me about Mindshift Mentors, so I decided to try their audio sessions. I didn’t know what to expect, but Rob’s voice is so calm and grounding, and the sessions just clicked with me. After a few nights of listening, I noticed a huge difference. I was waking up with a relaxed jaw and sleeping more deeply. If you’re struggling with nighttime jaw tension, I can’t recommend Mindshift Mentors highly enough. It’s made such a difference in my life.”
Ashleigh Muir
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“I had been grinding my teeth in my sleep for years, and nothing seemed to help, not even the expensive mouthguards. I was constantly waking up with jaw pain and headaches. A friend recommended Mindshift Mentors, and I started listening to their audio sessions. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but from the very first audio, something shifted. The way Rob explains things just made sense, and the sessions helped me let go of the tension I didn’t even realise I was holding. Honestly, I’m blown away. This approach is unlike anything I’ve tried.”
Callan Muir
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“Rob’s hypnotherapy actually worked! I now fall asleep faster, stay asleep longer, and wake up refreshed.”
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Individual experiences vary. Testimonials describe individual experiences and do not guarantee that another person will achieve the same result.
What it actually is
Traditional therapy tends to work on the story. This helps with what sits underneath it, where automatic habits and stress responses are actually formed.
Rob Edmonds explains the method, about six minutes
No going over the argument and no talking it through. The session helps with the response that fires long before any of your reasoning gets a turn.
You are not asked to go back into old hurt, which is why people who cannot face rehashing things can still do this.
Strategic Psychotherapy and behavioural science combined. The whole of it happens while you are listening, so there are no exercises to keep up and nothing to remember during the day.
The program is built around 21 days of listening, one session a day. What people notice, and when, varies a lot, and we make no promise about either. If you want the method in full, here is how Cognitive Pattern Reprogramming works.
What you actually get
Your membership also includes access to the complete MindShift library.
The offer
One session free for 7 nights, no credit card. Then the whole library opens.
Monthly
Works out at $359.40 a year
Annual
The same as $24.92 a month. You keep $60.40.
That is about 82 cents a night, and you can start tonight.
What is actually going on
This is about the nervous system patterns that put distance between people who love each other. It is not couples therapy, and it is not the right tool if there is violence or coercive control in the picture. If that is your situation, 1800RESPECT is the number, and it is free, confidential and available at any hour.
The line we hear most often is a version of the same thing: I am not angry at them, I have got nothing left. That is worth taking literally. What looks from the outside like a caring problem is almost never one. It is a capacity problem, and capacity has mechanics.
Nowhere. Shelved emotions accumulate rather than fade.
A threat trained brain reads unpredictability as risk, and home is the unpredictable one.
Rest is not the same as a safety signal.
Numbness is not indifference. It is desensitisation.
Ongoing conflict between parents is one of the largest risk factors for how children adjust. Co-parenting that stays focused on the child is protective.
It helps with your side of it, not the relationship.
The Mindshift Method app can be used alongside appropriate medical, psychological or therapeutic care where required.
Naming it properly
Eight common experiences, in plain language. They are not all the same thing, and they do not all need the same kind of support. Here is how to tell the difference, including where this pathway may help and where another form of support should come first.
Boxing feelings away to get through the day, and then not being able to get the box open again. Useful in the moment, costly as a permanent setting.
The program is designed to support the recurring stress, worry and automatic response patterns around this experience, alongside trauma informed counselling where that is in play.
Sitting facing the door. Scanning a room you have been in a thousand times. Unable to relax in your own house because the system that kept you safe somewhere else has not been told it can stand down.
The program is designed to support the recurring thought and stress patterns around it. If it is severe, or tied to specific events you cannot think about, please work with a professional alongside it.
Still responding to now as though you were in the last environment that demanded vigilance, and not being sure who you are once that role ends. Common after leaving a service, a career or a long marriage.
Directly what the sessions help with.
The checked out feeling. The freeze branch of the threat response, which the brain reaches for when it can neither fight nor escape, and then starts reaching for during ordinary stress.
The program helps with the stress driving it. If dissociation is frequent or you lose time, see a professional who works with it specifically.
Including the kind that has no funeral: the end of a marriage, a career, a version of the future you had already planned for.
This complements grief support, it does not replace it, and grief has its own timeline that nobody gets to hurry.
The ongoing negotiation with someone you are no longer with, over the people you both love most. Guilt tends to sit underneath it and quietly removes the structure children need.
The self regulation side is exactly this, and ongoing conflict between parents is worth taking seriously as its own risk.
Regression, clinginess, anger, withdrawal, or trouble at school in the months after a family changes shape.
Prolonged sadness, severe anxiety, aggression or any sign of self harm needs a child therapist, and it needs one now. This program is for the adult, and steadying the adult helps, and it is not treatment for a child who is struggling.
The running commentary that got louder somewhere along the way, and now narrates every conversation before and after it happens.
There is a session for this specifically and it is one of the most used on the whole program.
If any part of this is about safety rather than distance, that is a different conversation and a more urgent one. 1800RESPECT is free, confidential and available 24 hours a day on 1800 737 732. If the nights are the part that has gone first, which is common with all of the above, the sleep program is included in the same subscription.
You do not have to explain it to anyone to start working on it.
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Clearing it up
Worth being straight about, because it gets confused with all four.
There is no session you sit through together and nobody mediates anything. This helps with your side of the pattern, which is inconvenient and also the only side you can actually move.
The aim is not a flat calm and it is not never being annoyed. It is the gap between the feeling arriving and you acting on it, because that gap is where the choice lives.
There is no session where you explain yourself, and nothing is asked of you. The Mindshift Method does not require you to explain or retell your story during the audio session. The sessions focus on present-day patterns and responses.
If there is control, intimidation or violence in it, no audio session is the answer and none of this is your pattern to fix. 1800RESPECT is on 1800 737 732, free and open all day and all night.
Here is who it tends to work for, and who should look elsewhere first.
If there is control, intimidation or violence in your relationship, please start with 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 rather than with an app. And if things are bad right now, in Australia Lifeline is on 13 11 14 and the Suicide Call Back Service is on 1300 659 467, all free and all open all night. This work is designed for the long grind, not for an emergency.
The man behind the MindShift Method
Rob Edmonds
Strategic Psychotherapist
Accredited practitioner LIC#110226 · ISPA accredited · ASCH member
Rob was nineteen and could not speak in front of a room. Not nervous, genuinely unable, and it was costing him exams. He tried something he had run out of reasons not to try, and a few sessions sorted it. It worked in a way that annoyed him slightly, because it should not have been that straightforward. That quietly shaped everything after it.
He trained at the Institute of Applied Psychology in Sydney and went on to create Cognitive Pattern Reprogramming, part of the MindShift Method. He writes and voices every session in the library himself, and still sees clients one to one.
Sometimes the other person is the problem, and this does not pretend otherwise. What these sessions help with is your side: the flood that arrives before you have decided anything, and what you do in the ten seconds after. That is the part you can move without anyone's permission, and moving it often changes what comes back at you.
Doing this on your own is the normal way. Nobody else has to agree to anything, sign up to anything or even know you are doing it. Some couples end up doing it side by side later, but nothing here needs two people.
These sessions are not designed to flatten you out, and it would be a failure rather than a result if they did. The target is the gap between a feeling arriving and you acting on it. Wider gap, same feelings, and you get a say in what happens next instead of watching yourself do it again.
Quiet the Inner Critic is the session for that. The critic often behaves more like a learned response than a fixed trait, and usually an old one. Reasoning with it does not work because it was never built out of reasoning in the first place.
You do not have to go back over what happened, and that is deliberate. Letting Go of the Past and Returning to the Present is designed to help with the grip old hurt still has on today, not with the events themselves. You never have to describe any of it, to us or to anyone.
The Mindshift Method can be used while you are seeing a couples counsellor. It sits alongside professional care rather than in place of it, and plenty of people do both. It is a self help support tool, not a substitute for professional care, so if you are working with someone, keep working with them.
Other people often notice before you do, because you are looking for a feeling and they are noticing a reaction that did not happen. This pathway is built around 21 days of listening, one session a day. Some people notice changes quickly while others find change develops more gradually. Individual experiences vary, and we cannot tell you in advance which you will be.
The Mindshift Method can be used while you are seeing a therapist. It sits alongside other therapeutic care, and it is a self help support tool rather than a substitute for professional care. If you are working with someone on something serious, keep working with them.
If you are not sure this is your problem, listen to the full session on this page before you decide anything, and take the seven free nights. No credit card is needed to start, so there is nothing to cancel if you conclude it is not for you. That is a cheaper way to find out than talking yourself into it.
The offer
One session free for 7 nights, no credit card. Then the whole library opens.
Monthly
Works out at $359.40 a year
Annual
The same as $24.92 a month. You keep $60.40.
That is about 82 cents a night, and you can start tonight.